Finding a nanny with whom it sticks, it's not easy. Having to change, it complicates everything ... especially for your little one!
With her nanny, it was great, everything was going well! Only here, whatever the reason, you have to change it. Preparation and support are needed to help your toddler maintain her emotional balance. His nanny is important to him!
Nanny change, he does not like too much!
- At this age, your child needs stable benchmarks that give him emotional security. Changing a nanny is often a first "definitive" separation experience. Explain that if the nanny leaves him ... you, however, will never leave him.
- By changing nanny, he may feel a sense of abandonment. Your child may be sad, sulky, sleep or eat less, will not want to play anymore. Do not panic, these are usually transient reactions. Tell him that his nanny does not reject him and that even if two people separate, that does not stop them from thinking about each other.
With this experience, your toddler is also aware of the difference. The nanny only makes up for your absence and does not replace you: you are her main attachment. Your child will learn to adapt to his new situation.
What transition for nanny change?
When the change of nanny happens in good conditions, the transition is carried out smoothly. While keeping a link with the old, your toddler will readjust to the new.
- Proceed gradually. Announce that he will change nanny only two to three weeks before. As soon as you find the replacement, suggest that you visit her. If your child is being kept at home, the transition is easier.
- Stake him out by showing him that you understand his emotions. Say: "I understand that you are sad, that you would like to stay with her, but that is not possible." The more you adhere to what he feels, the more he will feel understood, and the sooner he will mourn.
- Maintain links with the former nanny. A visit, sending a gift or a postcard will create a reassuring sense of continuity.
- Organize for one or two weeks depending on your child's reactions. Remember to give the new person some habits with the previous nanny and ask him, at least at first, to do the same. If a new relationship of trust is established between you and her, your child will feel more secure.
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